The month-long Kinktober celebration is underway, and the opportunity to explore kinky play is ripe! We will be sharing our staff recommendations for the best kinky toys that suit a variety of interests below.
But first, let’s walk through the definition of ‘kink’, for those who are beginners to the niche.
Dictionary.com defines kink as “bizarre or unconventional sexual preferences or behavior.”
If a kink-curious individual came across that sentence, there is a chance that they may abandon curiosity altogether because of one tricky word: bizarre.
The word bizarre (specifically in the context of kink) is often associated with a negative connotation. Why? Further, who or what officially classifies an interest as ‘bizarre’?
It is unfortunate that a word with this type of connotation continues to preface definitions (and ultimately, shape judgments) of kink, fetish or bondage preferences.
Some say that putting pineapple on pizza is bizarre. Does that mean pineapple-topped pizza is kinky? (HERE FOR IT. #sorrynotsorry)
Our point: if it feels good to you physically, mentally and/or emotionally, and it’s consensual, run with it! What feels good, interesting or enticing is neither ‘vanilla’ or ‘kinky’, in our opinion.
Unconventional? Sure, perhaps for those who are strictly into missionary. (Which some may also call ‘bizarre’, but to each their own.)
One more thing before we get to our kinky product recommendations! A Harper’s Bazaar (oh, the irony) article from 2018, Kinky Sex Could Be the Secret to Your Success, quotes Los Angeles-based sex therapist, Jamila Dawson, LMFT:
“A wave of recent research has confirmed this: If it’s something you desire in the first place, kinky sex can benefit you not just in the bedroom, but outside of it as well. “Unconventional” sexual practices and fantasies, such as BDSM, group sex, or role play, have been shown to reduce psychological stress, improve mental health and can help with satisfying and communicative relationships. Kinky people have also been found to have higher self-worth than those who are too afraid or ashamed to pursue their fantasies; all positive effects, which can help optimize your goals, mood and overall well-being even after kinky play ends.”
This is just one of the many benefits of bondage/fetish/kinky play, but we digress.
Without further adieu, here is our Kinktober list of the top 5 best kinky sex toys and accessories for all genders and experience levels.
Why: Pain and pleasure - these leather Vampire Gloves strike the perfect balance, depending on your preference. If pinpointed, scratching sensations on your skin make you melt, these are a necessity for your sex toy drawer. Can be used alone for delicious light scratches anywhere externally, or with your partner for a next-level spanking sesh.
Did we purchase this bondage kit for the ridiculously cute hat alone? Yes.
Is this an awesome value for every bondage accessory you might ever need? Also yes.
This combined choker + flogger accessory is a subtle nod to your submissive style that will draw some double-takes from kinksters on the street. Nothing better than functional bondage gear that also makes a sexy addition to casual or sexy attire.
Silicone Quickie Cuffs are extremely flexible and comfortable, and you can slip out of them in a heartbeat, no scissors or knot releasing required. Plus, they can be fully sanitized with antibacterial soap and water (or sex toy cleaner), and they roll up nicely - perfect for (discreet) travel.
This under the bed restraint system contains comfortable handcuffs, ankle cuffs, and tie downs all rolled into one snappy system. Simply place the straps under your bed (no bedposts required), and place your partner exactly where you want them.
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